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Emotional baseline

You can’t feel crazily grateful to be alive your whole life any more than you can stay passionately in love forever—or grieve forever, for that matter.

Most people inevitably return to a certain emotional baseline after circumstantial highs and lows.

We Learn Nothing
-Tim Kreider

Regression to the mean

Definition: if something is measured to be unusually high or low, the next measurement is likely to be closer to the average or “mean” value.

Example 1: For someone who is going through weight loss journey, after the first few weeks, they see a dramatic drop in their weight. (due to factors like water weight, changes in diet, and the novelty of the new routine.) The rate of weight loss will likely slow down and their weight will start to move closer to their true average or healthy weight range. The initial “honeymoon” phase of rapid weight loss, followed by a leveling off as the body finds a new equilibrium is the fine example of Regression to the mean, which explains why the extreme initial results are unlikely to be sustained long-term.

Example 2: When a newly married couple is deeply in love, their feelings and emotions tend to be at an extreme high. However, over time, as the relationship matures and the couple faces the realities of daily life together, there is often a regression towards a more balanced, “average” level of love and intimacy. The extreme highs and lows of the early relationship tend to even out. The strong negative emotions expressed during these conflicts represent the lower end of the spectrum, compared to the initial infatuation. As the couple works through these challenges and finds a new normal in their relationship, their feelings towards each other are likely to regress back towards a more moderate, sustainable level of love and connection. The extreme highs and lows even out over time.

Tim Kreider says every human emotions will eventually come down to an emotional baseline after experiencing extreme highs and lows.

3 July 2024 | ವೈರಿ ಮತ್ತು ವೈಚಾರಿಕ ಭ್ರಷ್ಟತನ

“The problem is never that people are too dumb to see wisdom. People dislike wisdom if they dislike the mouth it comes from. “

Manu Joseph

ಎಷ್ಟೊಂದು ಸರಿ ನಮಗೆ ಇಷ್ಟವಾಗಬಹುದಿದ್ದ ಎಷ್ಟೊಂದು ವಿಷಯಗಳು ನಮ್ಮ ಕೆಂಗಣ್ಣಿಗೆ ಗುರಿಯಾಗುವ ಮುಖ್ಯ ಕಾರಣ ನಮಗೆ ಇಷ್ಟವಿಲ್ಲದ ಯಾರೋ ಒಬ್ಬ ವ್ಯಕ್ತಿಗೆ ಅದು ಇಷ್ಟವಾಗಿರುತ್ತದೆ.

ನಾವು ದ್ವೇಷಿಸುವ ವ್ಯಕ್ತಿ ಇಷ್ಟಪಡುವುದೆಲ್ಲವನ್ನು ನಾವು ದ್ವೇಷಿಸಲು ಶುರು ಮಾಡಿಕೊಳ್ಳುತ್ತೇವೆ. ನಮ್ಮ ನೆರೆಮನೆಯ ಆಪ್ತ ನಮ್ಮ ವೈರಿಯ ಜೊತೆ ನಗುತ್ತಾ ಹರಟುವುದನ್ನು ನೋಡಿದ ನಂತರ ಆತನ ಜೊತೆ ಸಂಬಂಧ ಹಳಸಲು ಶುರುವಾಗುತ್ತದೆ.
ವೈರಿಯ ಬಾಯಿಂದ ಬಂದ ಸತ್ಯವನ್ನು ಸುಳ್ಳೆಂದು ಪ್ರತಿಪಾದಿಸಲು ನಮ್ಮ ಮನಸ್ಸು ಇನ್ನಿಲ್ಲದ ಕಸರತ್ತು ಮಾಡುತ್ತದೆ, ಅದಕ್ಕೆ ಪೂರಕವಾದ, ಪುಷ್ಟಿ ಕೊಡುವ ವಿಚಾರಗಳನ್ನೇ ಹುಡುಕುತ್ತಾ ಹೋಗುತ್ತದೆ. ಅದೇ ಸತ್ಯದ ವಿರೋಧಿಗಳ ಆರಾಧಕರಾಗುತ್ತೇವೆ. ವೈಚಾರಿಕವಾಗಿ ಭ್ರಷ್ಟರಾಗುತ್ತೇವೆ.

Tenant and Traveler

What are the similarities between a tenant and a traveler?

  • A tenant never feels a psychological sense of belonging to the place. Like a traveler, they are more inclined to escapism. They don’t concern themselves unduly with political or infrastructure changes that might affect their current surroundings. This is because they always have the option to escape, to find a new place, and start everything fresh.
  • Neither tenants nor travelers necessarily feel the need to befriend their neighbors. Unburdened by the obligations of long-term commitment, they understand the brevity of their stay and the limited potential for deep relationships. This awareness is often mutual, as native residents or owner-neighbors might also hold back from investing in close ties with someone likely to move on soon.
  • Both travelers and tenants can sometimes unintentionally influence the character of a place rather than adapting themselves. Unfamiliar with local customs, they may introduce their own traditions and be less inclined to readily embrace the existing culture. This can sometimes lead to a less than diligent adherence to established rules and regulations. Consider, for example, a housing community where residents, both permanent and temporary, have an established understanding regarding the use of shared resources like swimming pools, parking spaces, and water. Written rules might exist, but it’s often social awareness and the fear of community disapproval that drive responsible behavior. In such a scenario, a new tenant lacking long-term commitment may indeed be more susceptible to the “tragedy of the commons,” potentially exploiting those resources without consequences.
  • Though tenants or tourists may harbor an illusion of belonging, the place rarely embraces them whole-heartedly. A temporary resident will not, in most cases, become part of the locals’ inner circle, and this can hinder their grasp of the critical nuances of the local culture.

Fat old man at Someshawara temple Kolara